Tuesday, January 17, 2012


Patience is something I have always struggled with. I can let the silliest things drive me crazy. For example, my husbands jaw clicks when he eats certain things. Not his fault, nor can he control it. But one day I got up and moved spots so I didn't have to listen to it. I would have been so hurt if that was me. I can't believe I let such a small silly little thing allow me to get up and move, and insult anyone, let alone MY HUSBAND, like that.. That is ridiculous on my part. Why should it bother me? It is simply a noise. I am embarrassed that I let that get to me. How trivial.

That is just one example... and I have thousands of things I have done because I don't have much patience. And it is quite embarrassing.

I have noticed so many AMAZING changes since I have really started to focus on my relationship with Jesus. I really have. I wake up in a better mood, I don't get ridiculous over as many silly things as before ( " I am no where near where I need to be, but thank God I am not where I used to be" Joyce Meyer quote) I can honestly love and appreciate my husband 10 fold what I was before. And I am so thankful for that. Marriage is hard, and I didn't realize how hard it would be, at times, but oh man IT IS TOTALLY WORTH IT! I love my husband more and more every day!

Today, at lunch I came home quick and he made me a candle light lunch!! How sweet is that!! seriously. I love him to pieces.

 I remember when we were dating, we went on a retreat through our church at the time, and I was sitting there thinking and praying that I would marry this man. And oh how badly I wanted to be married, to him, and thinking to myself "he was so amazing".

I may have went through a little time here and there where I didn't think he was all that amazing, but that was my craziness. I wasn't appreciative of what was right in front of me. I didn't appreciate him for who he was. Which is a shame, and all I can say is I am glad I figured it out so quickly in my marriage. I feel like some never figure it out.

 Out of the 2.5 years we have been married I can honestly say I love him more and more every day, and I cant imagine the crazy love relationship we will have in 50 years from now!

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(from an episode of friends... Phoebe says it) :)

PS- Now just to get this straight, my husband isn't normally a candlelight dinner kind of guy. Nor is he perfect. So if you are reading this and thinking "I wish my husband was like that" I can assure you, I could tell you things about my husband (or anyone other than your husband) and you would really appreciate your husband. It has been really hitting me hard, how important our attitudes are. It is all about perspective. Appreciate what you have, and be thankful for it, each and every day. period.

LOVE this quote. (got this from pinterest)
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  1. This was beautiful! I can relate to you in a lot of ways! and my jaw clicks when i eat certain things too. I love that quote!

    In our sea of love

  2. As a 44 year old woman that has been married for almost 20 years (together for five before that) I can say that being annoyed by your spouse is 100% NORMAL. If anyone ever tells you different then they are lying to you. :)

    1. Thanks :) I think I am definitely in the normal category for getting annoyed, but how I react I feel needs a lot of improvement still. :) I love hearing happy endings like yours!

  3. aw, i love that quote too! and a candlelight meal sounds so cute :) it really does just get better & better!!

  4. I struggle with the same thing. My husband breathes really loud and so many times I've let it drive me crazy. Silly huh? So I feel your pain. Saying a prayer for your patience and mine! :)

  5. Just thanked God for my husband this morning. We are celebrating our 9th wedding anniversary today. :) Marriage isn't always rainbows and sunshine but as long as God is the center of it the obstacles are no big deal. Here's to many more happy years of marriage with your husband!

  6. What a great post Tara. I am so glad you have that sort of love in your life : ) May your year continue to go beautifully!

  7. Oh, wow...that quote is soooo amazing. I can really relate to this post, Tara.

  8. Beautiful quote - so powerful. Thanks for this post. I've also been trying to work on my attitude lately, as I realized that so often I look at the negative things instead of the positive things in my life. It's always good to get a reminder that I need to be thankful. :)